PART I: The Newly Single Woman
The first, and most dramatic of these events is the split from my boyfriend of over 4 years. We met when I was 16, he was 18, entering our freshman year of college. We “grew up” together, had been there for each other during the crazy maturation process that happens to everyone during those young adult years. I can truly say that I did not know myself as an adult without him. He was literally my best friend, someone who knew things that others never will, someone I always talked about spending the rest of my life with. Over the past few months our lives became misaligned and there was a certain separation that seemed to naturally occur. No one is to blame for what happened, and it was obvious to both of us that RIGHT NOW is the time that we venture on our designated paths to become our best selves.
Although we’ve had our issues and “break-ups” throughout our college years, we both knew in our hearts that this time was different. This time the separation was not a result of selfish ambition, laziness, or outside influence. It was the result of prayer, wisdom, revelation, and a mature decision to do what is best for us at this time in our lives. It’s been over six weeks that we’ve been apart & I must say it’s been a difficult transition.
Having someone be in your life in a specific role, and depend on them for things that you can depend on no one else for is an amazing thing especially when you feel as though you reciprocate that role in their life. Then suddenly, it has all changed. He is no longer my boyfriend but now “the homie”. I have to remove certain responsibilities from him. Which is difficult.
I must say though, good fruit has come from our obedience. In our short time apart, we have both been challenged to mature in ways that we wouldn’t have had we still been together. Often times we used our relationship as a bandage to cover up wounds from injuries we sustained before we entered into the relationship. We covered up issues that needed to be dealt with, because we knew that we continuously made the decision to love each other unconditionally despite our deepest flaws.
